Forgive and “forget”?

Had this conversation yesterday about forgiveness yesterday.

We often talk about forgiving and forgetting that goes hand in hand.

“Forgive and forget” like what our schools always teach us.

But sometimes we just can’t forget certain things although we forgive already.

Like, you and your friends went to this shopping mall years back. And then you went to the washroom and you asked your friends to wait for you out there. They saw something else that caught their attention and they went off! You’re super angry with them but after a few days you just dont feel as angry and forgive them. But your memory is super good that you cant forget that incident. Everytime you walk past that part of the shopping mall you would think of it and laugh a little bit. HMM… We just sometimes can’t forget some experiences like that.

But what we can forget is that pain, forget that feeling that you felt when you come out of the toilet, forgive that anger you had and you totally don’t want to talk to anyone.

Only bring that thing up to laugh about it, not to remind anyone of their mistakes.

Don’t bitch about it anymore.

When the memories come again, it isn’t that painful anymore.

Most of the time, we do forgive but at a really really slow rate. My friend used to tell me, when girls forgive you it’s by installment. May 20% everyday and it takes 5 days?

HAHA! So, forget the pain and quicken your pace of forgiving people if they are really remorseful about it.